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Beginning Blogger 1o1: Blogger Guilt and Taking Breaks

Hello my lovely readers! I hope this week has been treating you well. Today, I’d like to talk about blogger guilt and taking breaks. Recently, I haven’t been posting much to this blog. I didn’t add any content and I felt awful about it. I felt like my blog was going to die, I’d lose my followers, and I was disappointed in myself that I messed up my carefully planned schedule. But, I didn’t have the time or energy to devote to this blog. I had a lot of my plate these past weeks and it helped me figure out where I stand with this blog. I enjoy this blog and I definitely plan on continuing to post, but this is a hobby blog. I make no money off this and that’s okay. My lovely followers didn’t abandon me. Thank you all for that by the way. I actually gained followers oddly enough. It wasn’t the end of my blog that I took a break and it was good for me. It gave me time to breathe. I had no reason to feel guilty and if you choose to start your own blog you shouldn’t feel guilty about it either. Now, I know that’s easier said than done, but we’re all people writing these blogs and people usually get the need for breaks. Starting a blog that you’re passionate about can be an exciting and kinda scary thing. When you put a lot of love into it stepping away even for a day or a week can feel like a loss. I think that’s why it’s important to remind ourselves that it’s okay.

Below is a TED talk about the importance of taking breaks. This talk is given by an artist who regularly takes breaks and it has allowed him keep his creativity alive. This advice can seem obvious when you think about it, but we are a society that is generally focused on product over process. It trains people in many ways to work themselves until there’s nothing left and I want us all to avoid that.

How to take a secret break

Now, you might not understand the title, but what I mean is: How do you take a break without it being super obvious you are taking a break? If you’re worried about about keeping up with appearances or you don’t want there to be a time gap in your posting there are a couple things you can do.

  1. Create a schedule– this is probably one of the easiest things you can do. When I first started blogging I wanted to post everything I wrote right away and wanted to share all my ideas with readers RIGHT NOW. While it feels really good especially when you get reader feedback from all your hard your work that sort of posting schedule is hard to keep up with. However, if you have better self control than I had when first starting out posting only a couple of times a week while saving drafts for future posts is SO helpful. I try to have an ongoing collection of reviews saved up just for this reason. It takes some of the pressure off.
  2. Partner with someone – if you know you’re a busy person, but would still like to blog you could always share a blog with a friend or interested person. This means that if you get busy then hopefully your partner could take over and vice versa. This option can be a little tricky depending on what vision you have for your blog and how protective you are of it. I’ve seen it work well in the past, but personally don’t think I could handle it.
  3. Guest posts – what I’ve seen done before and actually really enjoy are guest posts by other bloggers. Now, this is usually done when there’s a particular topic being discussed that different bloggers will do a guest post on their thoughts or personal experiences. This one takes a bit more planning at the beginning and you have to have bloggers willing to participate. This has a double benefit though. Not only do you not have to post something on that day, but you’re bringing more attention to the guest and their blog and possibly vice versa. True booking community spirit here.

Breaks of Different Types

If you decide that a break may be helpful there are always different types of breaks you can take based on your needs. Here are some types of breaks and what might be helpful to do during them.

  1. Radio Silence – This is the best break to take when you’re so exhausted and frustrated with your blog that it’s seeping into your every day life. Radio silence break is where you don’t post anything. You don’t read other posts. You temporarily forget that wordpress even exists. I would even recommend not reading books during this break either. Sometimes we need a hard reset before we can get back into enjoying something. I recommend doing something else you enjoy or going outside for a walk. Whenever I reach this level my brain feels foggy, my eyes hurt, and I have a headache. If you can get away from the screen for a little bit or a long time (if you need) it can allow the physical needs of your body to be taken care of as well as your mental and emotional ones.
  2. Snail posting – This is when you’re just getting a bit overwhelmed by your previous blogging schedule. Slow down, it’s okay not to post every day or even every other day. This is where my above suggestions would be most helpful. You need to let go of some of the pressure you are putting on yourself.
  3. Readers Block – If you’re dedicated to writing review for your blog then the pressure to read books quickly can take away the joy of a good book. If you have a book blog chances are that you enjoy reading. Don’t let the blog take that away from you! Depending on your readership the least interesting part of a book blog are the reviews. Readers often enjoy content such as lists, book meme posts, or other fun posts that allow them to participate more in your blog or at least give them something new to read that might now spoil a book for them.

That is my advice. I hope it is helpful to some of you out there who are stressed out. I’d love to hear if anyone has anymore tips or tricks on blogger guilt and/or taking breaks!

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Wonder Wednesday: The Traits of a Great Character

Happy Wednesday my lovely readers. This week I’ve been wondering a lot about what makes a great character. I watched Avengers: End Game this past Friday and I’m a huge Iron Man fan, but it’s hard for me to really pinpoint what about him I love so much. So, maybe all of you can help me think about characters and what in particular makes them so great. What, in your opinion, makes a character great? Now, I don’t necessarily mean a character that is morally great although that might be part of what draws you to a character. What I really mean is what makes a character so real that you can’t help but thinking of them as a real person/being?

I look forward to hearing your thoughts!

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Wonder Wednesday: Secrets

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Hello everyone and happy Wednesday! This week I’ve been wondering about secrets. Not necessarily world changing secrets, but the small little secrets I think we all have. For example, I’ve told people I have a blog, but I’ve never told anyone I know in my every day life that this particular blog is mine. I don’t tell people because this blog is extremely personal to me and I don’t want the added pressure of knowing that people I see every day may be judging what I post on here. It gives me a lot more confidence to post whatever I want and it makes blogging more fun.

So, on that note, do you have any little secrets that you keep to yourself? And if so, why do you keep them a secret?

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Wonder Wednesday: The blogging community

Hello lovely readers! I hope you’re having a wonderful Wednesday! Today I was wondering how you participate in the blogging community particularly the book blogging community. Do you participate in reading challenges, do you do lots of blog hopping, or are you someone who prefers to just read a blog or two in your spare time? Do you participate in the community in a way I haven’t mentioned? I’d love to hear your responses!

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Wonder Wednesday: Where do you get your books?

Hello lovely readers and happy Wednesday! Today, I’ve been wondering where everyone finds new books that they want to read. Do you find all of your book while browsing the shelves of Barnes&Noble, searching for highly rated books of Amazon, through friend recommendations only, or something different?

I can’t wait to here all the places that you find new and great books.

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Wonder Wednesday: Enjoyable Blogs

Happy Wednesday everyone! This week I’ve been wondering what attracts you to a blog? Is it the layout that appeals to you? Is it the content, and if so, what content do you really enjoy? Do you prefer blogs to have a set update schedule or are you okay with people updating whenever? Like always I’ve been skimming through blogs though not as much as I usually do and I see some blogs with okay content with thousands of followers vs bloggers who have content I really enjoy with only a couple hundred. Is it a time spent blogging? The longer you blog the more followers you inevitably you get? I would love to know your thoughts not only to help my own blog, but so that others can read and improve their own blogs.

Have a lovely day and I look forward to hearing from you!

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Wonder Wednesday: Judging a book by its cover?

Hello lovely readers! I hope this Wednesday is treating you well! This Wednesday I’ve been wondering about books and their covers. There is a saying that says, “you should never judge a book by its cover”. Its an excellent analogy about how you shouldn’t judge people based on what they look like, but I have a hard time applying this to books. Cover art to me is like the first love letter to a book that you see and if it isn’t well done then I wonder at the time and effort put into the book that is behind it. Maybe that’s fair, maybe it isn’t. What I’d like to know: do you judge a book by its cover? And if you do, what most appeals to you on a book cover? If you don’t then how do you determine which book to buy?

I can’t wait to hear from you!

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Wonder Wednesday: To leave a bad review or no?

Hello lovely readers! This Wednesday I’ve been wondering about bad reviews. As a lover and reviewer of books there have been books out there that I’ve hated. Sometimes it’s the poor characterization or world building, but other times I just didn’t really enjoy the book even though it was really well written. So, I’ve been wondering. Should book bloggers post their bad reviews? I ask, because though I’ve seen an occasional less than positive review on a book blog on the majority I’ve seen 4+ ratings. This could be, because like me other bloggers only read books that they feel that they’re really interested in. But, I’ve also heard murmurs of bad reviews being bad for your blog. So, I’d like to know what you think? Do you think it’s good/okay to post a bad review for a book on your blog and why?

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Wonder Wednesday: The Power of a Single Story

Hello everyone and welcome to Wonder Wednesday! This particular wonder today is going to come with a lot of information so give it a read if you can and then we can chat. I’m so excited to share this with you!

Below is a TED talk from Chimamanda NGOZI Adichie. It’s all about how a single narrative in the stories that we’re all told and sold affect how we see ourselves and the world. I personally think this is a very powerful video about the importance of representation.

When Adichie mentions that as a young girl she only first wrote about little white girls it was eye opening for me. I, as a white person, obviously never had a problem finding stories about people that looked like me. But, while Adichie is the first person I heard speak about this issue she definitely isn’t the last or only one. In an article featuring Tomi Adeyemi she also mentions that she didn’t write about another black character until she was about 10. There’s many accounts like this. Now, I have no problem with people writing about those that are different from themselves. If it’s well written and tastefully done, but as kid these authors and other poc didn’t see themselves as being a part of the stories I got to enjoy. That’s a problem. There’s no question about it. Now, some progress is being made. There has been a large portion of the book community that is really pushing for more diverse books. There’s even a wonderful nonprofit, We Need Diverse Books, that is devoted to this cause. Not to mention a cool project, called Marginsbox, that’s currently in it’s Kickstater phase (*cough* go support it *cough*).Not to mention the countless book bloggers I’ve found that promote and discuss diverse books. Everyone deserves to be able to see themselves in some of the books they read. This is not only true for young kids who read picture books or middle grade books, but also young adult. I think this is where much of the push is and it’s so important. I work in education and let me tell you if you don’t already know. Adolescents are put under an extreme amount of pressure on the daily. There’s school and teachers, family members, friends, and they’re really starting to explore who they want to be as a person. All aforementioned groups have expectations and are pushing for something. I cannot stress enough how important it is for these kids to see themselves in books and movies. It really helps create a feeling of acceptance even if maybe you don’t feel that acceptance outside of a book. I even feel that now as an adult.

So, to the wondering portion of this long post.


How do you feel about representation in books? Has representation in books had any affect on you? Do you have a similar story as the authors I mentioned above? I’d love to discuss this with you! Feel free to just share your thoughts even if it doesn’t answer one of these questions.

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Wonder Wednesday: Life Changing Books

Hello everyone, welcome to Wonder Wednesday! I hope you’re all staying nice and toasty in this very cold winter. Today I’d like to talk about life changing books. Now, perhaps life changing may seem like an extreme, but as a lover of books I feel like there are many books that have had a very powerful effect on me. Books have the power to make us question our assumptions, bias, and encourage us to consider ideas maybe we haven’t thought about before.

Do you have a book that you feel like has been life changing for you? How has it changed your perspective or affected you?

Do you feel like books have the power to create a deeper understanding for something in people or are they just for fun?


I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please feel free to comment below!